Was reading this blog "kindergayblog"(typing with the phone so cnt post the link) amazing btw.
Anyhow was reading some info about gay sex which was raised by a reader.
Being gay most tymes is captioned by "sealing the transition that is having gay sex" this is a stereotype many of us have that is really skewed.
Human beings are wired in different ways and even gay men have various ways of sexual gratification.many prefer anal penetratation,some prefer oral gratification,some just cuddling nd kissing does it (more 4 love birds)
so its not a rite of passage to have anal sex.
The crazy stories of the pain,feacal matter nd @ tymes consentual intercourse turning rape when one cant handle the pain scares many of us the virgins and its best that ones first tyme is done with an understanding and loving patner.
Use of adequate lube,condoms(for disease prevention) and a patner that can be well understanding if the pain becomes unbearable he can stop.
Sex labels can be a turn off more if sex needs an understanding.Tops never bottoms,bottoms dnt wana top,verse needs verse .Ample communication is very paramount for an eassy first tyme.
thoughts,experiences?
I also think that it helps to go into a potential sexual situation with a pretty good idea of what it is you do and don't like, what your turn-ons are, and what makes you feel more comfortable. If you're interested in being the receptive partner for anal sex (either part time or full time), that includes getting familiar with your own anus, at least through stimulating and penetrating yourself with your own finger(s). Ideally, I would also suggest investing in lube and a (small to reasonably sized) dildo or other toy designed for anal play (the original aneros can be a good first exploration toy, though a bit pricy). Granted, that does mean getting over any potential embarrassment or other hang-ups about going to an adult store, but it's well worth it in terms of better understanding your own body and what works for you. After all, having an experienced partner can be helpful, but knowing your own body, its needs, and its limits is equally if not more important.
ReplyDeleteAnd of course, the other thing to always keep in mind is that sex -- whatever form or expression it takes -- is supposed to be fun and mutually satisfying. The fastest way to ruin that is to enter into an experience that is over-burdened with expectations and a sense of pressure. And no matter what you end up doing, if the guy(s) you're with don't seem as interested in making sure you enjoy yourself as getting their own pleasure, seriously consider getting out of there fast.
WOW!! thnx for the valuable info.
ReplyDeletei believe knowing ur body theory sounds gud.some of us cant even fathom an object up our anus let alone the constant birage of a lustful patner.
pain perserverance also varies with people some have high torerance but other not really and takes tyme to get used to it.
sexual fetishes also are an important variable patners must explore to one another to fully understand on how to sexually plasure your patner.
mmmhhh.. virgins like you :-)
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