Why is It so hard!! This part of the world its very hard to discern who is playing for the right team(one can raise the gaydar red flag only to be deny the truth) . i know in other parts of the worlds its a free're society so hiting on somebody is'nt a big deal. here i dont thinks it plausible having the fear of unknown reaction always hovering around knowing very well the vast society are ignorantly homophobic"unafrican many would say harshingly". this has been one of my many detriments with gay dating , its so damn hard and the few that are available are either both extremes -effeminate or butch queens. For me am looking for a straight luking dude and not for sexual escapades but a gud relationship. its not always about sex , i know the cliches of gay men having crazy libidos or sluty but anm not for prosmiscuity i value my health knowing the repercusions.